I am certainly not a good loser. I have had coaches and people in my life, who have taught me how to lose gracefully. It is a coaches job, more to teach you how to approach your opponent after a loss, than after a win. In my expression, I shake the other person's hand and smile and say, good game. Yvonne Goolagong is my utmost image of the amazing way to show style in a loss. Her smile was infectious. I think that, even as a man, you can show style in a loss. I intend to change my strategy and practice harder to win the next time, but for now, you were the better man on the court. That is the sentiment of our outward expression.
During the match, I want to always see John McEnroe. "I have every intention of vanquishing you." That is the manly way in conflicts. It is hard to evoke that intensity of intension, when one is not in competitions. Conflicts are inevitable and losses are inevitable.
Always win, but if you can't win, look good losing.
